Monday, February 9, 2009

Marriage Compatibility Test - What If It Failed?




Have the feeling like your marriage really didn't pass the marriage compatibility test you should have taken a year ago? Do you find that things would just be so much easier if your spouse would do things your way? Well, it would be. But things doesn't work out like that.

So you married your complete opposite, your relationship is stressful and the two of you can't even agree on what to have for dinner. Does this mean that for the rest of your life, you are subject to the painful battle of fighting over “your way vs. his/her way” unless one of you gives in? No! There is no need to argue over “who does what which way”. And most importantly, neither of you need to change who you are.

You're about to learn the two most important marriage saving tip that can drastically lower your stress with your spouse. If you understand what you and your spouse value in life, you can cut your relationship stress in half!

The first thing you need to do is talk with your spouse about the things you passionately believe in…or feel strongly against. it's better if you would go over again the stage where in you'll ask 100 questions before marriage. Get to know your spouse again in a different perspective by doing this. You can start by discussing the little things in life that bug you.

NOTE: Be sure to talk about the 'problem areas' in your marriage. That IS the point of this discussion after all. Give your spouse your perspective on 'hot topics' in your marriage which could be anything from punctuality, family values, religion, eating habits or even personal privacy.

The second thing is to give your wife a little more affection. Are you so busy in your work? Do you often forgot her/him? Take some time to have your own private hours together. bring him to a romantic restaurant or plan a romantic weekend getaway. if it's your anniversary, don't ever forget to give him/her something. It can be just free wedding anniversary poems or homemade anniversary gift ideas . But what's important is that you gave something and treat him/her special.

Whether you and your spouse's attitude are at both ends of the world, you can actually save your marriage and live a more happy life. Just follow the two steps mention above, and for sure your marriage will turn into your fantasy marriage.